How to Talk to Your Child About COVID-19

Discussing difficult topics with children can be uncomfortable and this pandemic is no exception. Aliza Pressman, PhD, co-Founding Director and Director of Clinical Programming for the Mount Sinai Parenting Center, shares information parents and guardians can use as they care for  children during the time of COVID-19.

Should I let my children watch the news?

If you want to give age-appropriate information to your kids, I recommend reading articles from reputable sources—either to them or with them—and then talking about the information. You may want to stick with resources that do not show images as it can be hard for children—and adults—to get images out of their minds.

We don’t want our children to see difficult images that we cannot control. For that reason, I would recommend turning off the news completely in front of younger children. In fact, older children and teenagers don’t really need those images either. Ideally, you should set aside time to watch the news to when you are alone or with other adults. This will also help manage your own stress because you will be limiting the amount of time you spend taking in this information.

I would discourage people of all ages from watching the news too much. Having the news on 24/7 heightens stress in the household and sends the message that you’re scared to turn the news off because you’re afraid you’ll miss something.

How do I help my child understand why they cannot see their friends and loved ones?

It can be hard for children to be unable to visit friends and loved ones, like grandparents, who they might be accustomed to seeing regularly. Try to empathize with your child and help them come up with proactive ways to connect with grandparents or other loved ones whom they cannot see.

This is the time to take advantage of social media and digital devices to empower your child to forge a connection with someone when they are not in the same room. Help turn sadness into productive action by encouraging your child to write letters, send notes, call, and video chat. These are beautiful ways to connect and show children that there is something they can do to help a person they love feel better.

If your child doesn’t have someone to connect with, there are organizations that can help you reach out, write letters, and draw pictures for elderly and vulnerable people who are currently isolated.

Should I tell my child if a loved one is seriously ill?

No matter how old your child is, it’s important to be honest and give your child the information needed. How you explain the situation depends on the child’s age.

For younger children, if a close family member is ill and you know how that illness is progressing, you can tell your child that the person tested positive for COVID-19. Explain the care that person is receiving and that you need to support them from afar.

If the person is very ill and you do not know what the outcome will be, it’s okay to express that to your child. Explain that the person is receiving great care and that you will keep in touch to see how things are going. You do not want to tell your child that everything is fine and then, all of a sudden, the person’s condition deteriorates.

On the other hand, if the person is asymptomatic and has tested positive, you don’t necessarily need to tell your children.

What if I or my partner becomes ill?

If you or your partner are sick, you need to tell your child what is going on. Explain that COVID-19 is very contagious. Explain that, in order to keep their body healthy and their parent’s body healthy, you will need to be separated for 14 days. You can make a calendar as a visual reminder of how long you will be apart. This can work well for the whole family as even adults can benefit from being able to check off each day of quarantine as it passes.

When you explain anything to children, be sure to check in first. See what they know already and then you can see where to begin with the explanation.

Dr. Pressman is the host of parenting podcast Raising Good Humans. Recently, she and Mariel Benjamin, LCSW, from The Mount Sinai Parenting Center, answered questions from health care providers and staff on the front lines to help support their parenting curing COVID-19. Additionally, The Mount Sinai Parenting Center maintains a COVID-19 resources page for parents, caregivers, and health care workers.  

Managing Your Child’s Anxiety Caused By COVID-19

The COVID-19 pandemic is incredibly stressful for adults and can be puzzling and frightening for children. Aliza Pressman, PhD, co-Founding Director and Director of Clinical Programming for the Mount Sinai Parenting Center, shares advice for parents and guardians on how to manage your child’s anxiety as we navigate the uncertain times of COVID-19.

Are there steps I should take to help my child’s mental health?

This is a very confusing time for adults and kids. Typically, when kids are going through a new experience it is one that we, the adults, have been through. We’ve worked through it, we’ve grown up, and we’ve come out the other side. In this case, none of us have ever been through this and so our kids can’t look to us for that safe secure feeling. We don’t have a road map.

Be honest with your kids. Tell them that you know this is a new experience for all of us. Tell them that you understand if it feels scary or if they are worried. Remind them that you are right there with them.  

How should I respond to my child’s anxiety?

Give your child permission to talk about what they are feeling and worrying about. Acknowledge their anxiety even if it has nothing to do with COVID-19 or is only slightly related to the pandemic. For instance, children may feel stress because they miss their friends or aren’t allowed to celebrate an event like a graduation or birthday. Try not to diminish their feelings or say ‘we have bigger things to worry about than your birthday party.’ Instead, tell them that you know it’s really hard. Let them know that you are aware that this is a big change. Assure them that you can figure out how to have celebratory experiences, even if they are not quite how you originally planned them.

This is a very challenging time for everyone. You can explain to children that they are being asked to be health superheroes. Through the practice of social distancing and by washing their hands thoroughly, they are keeping themselves safe and helping to protect others who are more vulnerable. This is a wonderful, empowering message that does not scare children.

Is it important that I keep my child’s routines going?

Although it can be hard to keep routines going during a time that has very few routines, kids and adults thrive on knowing what to expect each day. So, try to set up a flexible routine for the coming weeks or months.

I encourage writing out a plan for your children. If they are younger, you can draw a picture of the routine of the day or use photos from magazines to help them understand what to expect. Ask older children to come up with what they think is a good daytime routine. You want to make sure they are comfortable with the schedule, but you also want to get certain boxes checked about what needs to happen each day. Make sure that it includes something healthy for their bodies, something healthy for their brain, something healthy for their relationships, and so forth.

It’s also important to let children have some enjoyment. Allow them to be happy about getting out of some obligations they had prior to practicing social distancing. Your kids might be a little bit happy about spending more time at home with their parents. Let them know that it’s okay to have mixed feelings.

Also, allow yourself to embrace the new normal and accept that there may not be a completely perfect routine and predictable day-to-day experience. Children need to know what to expect, but they’re also very flexible if you explain clearly that there may come a time when the unexpected will arise. Children can take in new information and, if you are consistent, they will understand that you are there for them. Finally, if you are having any concerns about you or your child’s health and wellbeing, be sure to reach out to your health care provider for guidance and support.

Dr. Pressman is the host of parenting podcast Raising Good Humans. Recently, she and Mariel Benjamin, LCSW, from The Mount Sinai Parenting Center, answered questions from health care providers and staff on the front lines to help support their parenting curing COVID-19. Additionally, The Mount Sinai Parenting Center maintains a COVID-19 resources page for parents, caregivers, and health care workers.  

What Are the Early Signs of Hearing Loss in Babies?

Hearing is critically important for a baby and is closely linked to language development in the first few years of life. Because of this, it is important to identify potential hearing loss as soon as possible so that early intervention can be arranged. Maura Cosetti, MD, Director, Otology/Neurotology, Mount Sinai Downtown, Associate Director, Ear Institute, New York Eye and Ear Infirmary of Mount Sinai (NYEE), and  Aldo Londino, MD,  Assistant Professor of Pediatric Otolaryngology at the Mount Sinai Health System and Chief of the Division of Pediatric Otolaryngology at the Mount Sinai Kravis Children’s Hospital, detail what parents need to know about spotting—and addressing—hearing loss in babies.

How common is pediatric hearing loss and what are the causes?

Approximately two to three infants per 1,000 are born deaf or with severe to profound hearing loss. Causes range from hereditary hearing loss to improper development of the inner ear. Hearing loss can also occur after birth and may be related to infections or other medical problems that occurred around the time of delivery.

How and when are babies tested for hearing loss?

All newborns are given a mandatory hearing test before leaving the hospital. This non-invasive screening helps identify babies who are deaf or hard of hearing by monitoring for either an ear or a brain response to a sound.

What does it mean if my baby “fails” the newborn hearing screening? 

There are many reasons that your baby may have failed the newborn screening test.  Because it is a screening, failing does not always mean your child has permanent or severe hearing loss. It is important to have a trained audiologist perform additional testing to assess your baby’s condition.

If hearing loss—whether permanent or temporary—is suspected, follow up testing with a pediatric audiologist is necessary to determine the amount of hearing loss and the appropriate interventions.  Interventions may range from observation, to hearing aids, and even cochlear implant evaluations.

My baby did not fail the newborn hearing screening. What are the signs of potential hearing loss as my child develops?

Signs and symptoms of hearing loss in babies vary, as children may reach milestones at different ages. However, the earlier hearing loss is diagnosed, the earlier it can be treated and the better the outcome for your child’s future development. Be aware of the following age-related guidelines to help gauge your child’s progress:

From birth to three months, your baby should:
  • React to loud sounds with a startle reflex
  • Turn their head to you when you speak
  • Be awakened by loud voices and sounds
From three to six months, your baby should:
  • Look or turn toward a new sound
  • Respond to “no” and changes in tone of voice
  • Begin to produce their own voice
From 6 to 10 months, your baby should:
  • Respond to their own name
  • Understand words for common items or phrases (mama, dada, milk, bottle, bye-bye)
  • Make babbling sounds
From 10 to 15 months, your baby should:
  • Look at familiar objects or point to people when asked to do so
  • Say simple words and sounds; may use a few single words meaningfully
  • Enjoy games like peek-a-boo and pat-a-cake

What steps should I take if my baby begins exhibiting signs of hearing loss?

If you feel that your baby is not meeting their developmental milestones to speak, play, or communicate, you should ask your pediatrician for a referral to a pediatric ear, nose, and throat specialist. Since hearing loss can affect your child’s ability to develop speech, language, and communication skills, it is of the utmost importance that your child receive appropriate services and treatment, which may include hearing aids, as soon as possible.

Maura K. Cosetti, MD

Maura K. Cosetti, MD

Director, Otology/Neurotology, Mount Sinai Downtown and Associate Director, Ear Institute

Dr. Cosetti specializes in the diagnosis and treatment of pediatric and adult hearing disorders, facial nerve disorders, and other complex conditions, as well as cochlear implantation, endoscopic ear surgery, and skull base surgery.

Aldo Londino, MD

Aldo Londino, MD

Assistant Professor of Pediatric Otolaryngology and Chief, Division of Pediatric Otolaryngology, Mount Sinai Kravis Children’s Hospital.

Dr. Londino specializes in the treatment of children with complex medical problems of the ears, nose, and throat.

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What Causes Speech Delay in Children?

Pediatric otolaryngologists (ear, nose, and throat doctors) play a vital role in the evaluation and management of children with speech delay, a communication disorder characterized by late speech and language development. These specialists, working with audiologists, speech therapists, and teachers, are an important part of the team that many children with speech delay rely on to reach their potential. Aldo Londino, MD, a pediatric otolaryngologist at The Mount Sinai Hospital, explains speech delay, what parents should expect during a physician visit, and how the condition is treated.

How do I know if my child has a speech delay?

While common causes of the condition include oral-motor problems (difficulty controlling speech muscles), significant ear wax buildup, chronic ear infections, or fluid behind the ear drums, signs of speech delay are varied.

Contact your child’s physician if your child:

  • By four months is not babbling with expression and copying sounds he or she hears
  • By six months is not responding to his or her name and/or cannot string vowels together (“ah,” “eh,” “oh”)
  • By 12 months is not able to say “Mama” and “Dada” and/or is not expressing gestures, such as pointing or shaking head “no”
  • By 18 months has difficulties imitating sounds
  • By two years cannot follow simple directions or use verbal language to communicate more than immediate needs

Early detection can be critical. There are various steps both parents and doctors can take to help at-risk children.  If you need additional help deciding when to ask your pediatrician or ear, nose, and throat specialist about possible speech delay, consult the well-organized and thorough reference of milestones during childhood compiled by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Keep in mind that many children are late bloomers. Not every child with a late start will go on to have a speech delay.  Albert Einstein, for instance, was initially considered delayed because he developed speech late in childhood.

What tests are important for evaluating speech delay in children?

All children with a suspected speech delay receive a formal hearing test in the office.  Though sometimes difficult to perform in a young child, this test is a complete evaluation of how your child hears and provides valuable information about the health and function of their ears.  We always review hearing test results with the parent in the office.  Additionally, as part of the evaluation for delayed speech, we always perform a thorough physical examination of your child, focused particularly on the ears and the oral cavity.  We also evaluate the tongue for a tongue-tie and ensure that the tongue has good mobility.

What should I expect during a visit for speech delay?

Your pediatric ear, nose, and throat doctor will ask several questions about you and your child. Records from birth and from your child’s pediatrician can inform the best diagnosis and treatment.  Be prepared to answer the following questions, among many others:

  • Were there any hurdles or challenges during the pregnancy or delivery of your child?
  • A hearing test is generally done while your baby is in the nursery soon after birth. Did your child pass this screening?
  • Has your child suffered from recurrent ear infections? If so, how frequent and how severe?
  • Has your child ever had ear surgery?
  • Is there a history of hearing loss in your family? Please note younger family members with hearing aids or any possible hereditary hearing loss.
  • Does your child respond to sounds/noises/conversation in his or her environment?
  • When was the last time your child had a hearing test?
  • How is your child doing in school or day care?

How is speech delay treated?

The effective treatment of speech delay very much relies on the underlying cause. Treating recurrent ear infections, for example, can help a child hear normally, and thereby enhance their ability to interact and learn from the words and sounds in their environment. Repairing a tongue-tie can help increase the mobility of the tongue and, with practice and help, have a big impact on pronunciation.

Regardless of the underlying cause, it is important that your child has a team dedicated to helping them reach their full potential.  Pediatricians, pediatric otolaryngologists, audiologists, speech therapists, and teachers all play a critical role in helping you and your child reach your goals. As a parent, always communicate with your child.  Your positive reinforcement of their expressive habits is a valuable tool. And, most importantly, if you have concerns about your child, ask your pediatrician about consultation with a pediatric ear, nose, and throat specialist.

Photo of Aldo Londino IIIAldo Londino, MD, is a pediatric otolaryngologist at the Division of Pediatric ENT, who treats patients at Mount Sinai Doctors East 85 Street (234 East 85th Street, Fourth Floor) and 2025 Richmond Road on Staten Island. Dr. Londino specializes in the diagnosis and treatment of the full gamut of ear, nose, and throat conditions in children and adolescents, including the most complex cases.

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Should I Limit My Child’s Screen Time?

Screens are everywhere, even in the waiting areas of pediatric practices. This makes it harder for parents to control the amount of time children spend engaging with digital media. While there are legitimate educational applications that involve handing your child, or putting your child in front of, a screen, limits are important. Micah Resnick, MD, a board certified pediatrician at Mount Sinai Queens, explains how, and why, parents should limit usage.

How much is too much screen time?

Parenting is not easy. Sometimes a screen is the most efficient solution for occupying your child while you attend to the needs of other family members, or even your own needs. Despite the ease and importance of using digital media, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends the following:

  • No screen time before 18 months old except for video chatting
  • Strictly limited screen time for toddlers 18 to 24 months old
  • One hour a day of “co-viewing” for children two to five years old
  • Consistent limits on screen time for children six years and older

Those are pretty serious restrictions, and with good reason.  Too much screen time can result in lack of sleep, aggression, obesity, and loss of social skills.  No one wants that, especially during your child’s crucial development stage.

So, what are parents to do?

An excellent starting point to help limit screen time is the creation of a family media plan.  HealthyChildren.org, a parenting advice website from the AAP, provides helpful tools like a media plan template and a media plan calculator here. Using the media plan calculator, you are given an age-appropriate checklist advising how to help create screen-free zones, screen-free times, and device curfews, and how to balance online and offline time for your child.   There are also important sections on how your child can be a good “digital citizen.”  Speak with your child about cyberbullying, the dangers of sending or receiving explicit images via text, and the importance of following online guidelines.

Encourage tactile activities. 

While digital media is ubiquitous, it is not essential. An early childhood filled with books and educational toys will pay off well into adolescence.  Play with your children, read to them, and teach them about colors and numbers and how to play musical instruments.  These tactile interactions will promote the most intellectual and emotional development.

Micah Resnick, MD, is a board-certified pediatrician at Mount Sinai Queens and an Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai. His clinical interests include well-child care, adolescent health, preventive medicine, and patient and family education. By educating patients and their families, he empowers them to make healthy decisions and strengthens their compliance with clinical recommendations.

Be a Media Mentor

Digital media is great, in moderation and with age appropriate supervision. When you allow screen time, be a media mentor.  Watch or play online with your child. Always ensure that the content is age appropriate. As children get older, monitor their digital footprint, including social media accounts. For helpful suggestions on engaging with your child—both with and without screens—check out parenttoolkit.com.

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How Can I Get My Child Through an Injection?

No one likes injections. In just the first year of a healthy baby’s life, 12 shots will be administered. More injections will follow through adolescence, making needles an uncomfortable but necessary fact of life. Micah Resnick, MD, a board certified pediatrician at Mount Sinai Doctors Queens, explains how to minimize the stress and pain surrounding these injections, which help you and your child stay healthy.

Only a handful of my friends get their annual flu vaccines, the rest skip out because of their needle phobia, so it is no surprise that infants and children are fearful of injections and blood draws. How can we, as parents and as physicians, help alleviate the fear? I never lie to parents when they ask me if infants can feel pain. Yes, they can. However, for babies and children of all ages, it is important that parents stay calm, smile, and use encouraging words. Your child, especially toddlers and older children, will take cues from you.

For babies, physical contact is very important. Hold your baby close in an upright position. You may want to breastfeed before, during, and after the immunization to calm your baby down. There are over-the-counter topical anesthetic creams that may minimize the pain, but these can take 30 to 60 minutes from application to start working.

Toddlers require more active intervention. Tell your toddler about the injection ahead of time. You know your child best—some young children respond well to being told just before, while other children may do better with several short discussions in the days leading up to the doctor visit. In either case, try to distract your child at the time of the injection by blowing on a pinwheel or even blowing something imaginary out of your hand. Don’t tell them it will only hurt a little, or it will be over soon. This will only remind them of the discomfort.

School-aged children are typically more reasonable. Honesty is the best policy here. The goal is to set a realistic expectation. Explain to your child that injections are necessary. Let them know that the little pinch from the needle keeps them from getting sick.  For the injection, your best bet is to distract your child: you can play music or talk about a book you both like. In my office, I have colorful posters of animals and trees on the wall. I often point to those animals or ask a child to list the different ones on the wall he or she recognizes.

Talk with your child about the experience afterward. Acknowledge the pain. Give praise for doing a good job, or even just for a “best effort.” Ice cream or another enjoyable treat may also be in order.

What do you do with an absolutely inconsolable toddler or child?  Number one, don’t drag it out. Take a short time to reason with your child, and if it is a no go, hold your child while the injection is given. It is only very rare cases, when the fear turns into a phobia, that the services of a psychologist may be necessary. Remember, we are hoping that your child sees injections as an unpleasant fact of life. Stay positive, stay supportive.

Micah Resnick, MD, is a board-certified pediatrician at Mount Sinai Queens and an Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai. His clinical interests include well-child care, adolescent health, preventive medicine, and patient and family education. By educating patients and their families, he empowers them to make healthy decisions and strengthens their compliance with clinical recommendations.

Quick Tips for Parents

  • Use contact as a comfort.        Hold your child using as much skin-to-skin contact as possible.
  • Provide a distraction.                 Use movement, sucking, music, toys, talking, rocking, or singing to distract your baby.
  • Breastfeed before, during, and after an injection.               Nursing may be the perfect pain reliever for simple procedures. It involves holding, skin-to-skin contact, sucking, and a sweet taste—all proven ways to reduce the pain a baby feels.
  • Give a sweet treat.                          As an alternative to breastfeeding, give your child a sugar solution on a pacifier. Remember, never use honey in babies under one year old as it can cause botulism.
  • Have a pain reliever handy.        Ask your pediatrician about proper dosing of pain relievers—acetaminophen or ibuprofen—for your baby, or inquire about other medicines to help relieve pain after the visit.

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